Educated vs. Learned
Funny how curiosity was not (and generally still is not) one of those things people consider something worth being good at. I am very good at being curious and I have always been -- even when I was not good at articulating my curiosity.
This idea of not doing what I wasn't naturally good at was also encouraged and developed by the list of things I was told, specifically, NOT to do. Adults like to say (and I have said it myself) that all children believe they are immortal. That sense of immortality was not something I experienced all that much because I was a sickly kid. I was in and out of the hospital several times before I turned five. Doctors took out my tonsils when I was four because they assumed that swollen tonsils were the reason I was having trouble breathing. It took a while before my parents could find the right doctor to make the correct diagnosis. The smart, non-cutting doctor determined it was chronic asthma made worse by allergies. And I was allergic to almost everything. The doctors assured my parents that exposure to any level of dust, pollen, or mold might trigger an asthma attack that would kill me.**
This created a long list of things I could not do. If a neighbor three yards away was mowing their yard, I couldn't go outside to play. Sports were problematic, and even after I was cleared at the age of eight to join the world outside of school and church, I struggled. I couldn't tromp through the woods or explore the wide open fields near where I grew up -- both of which I did, often once I was old enough to be let out on my own without fear of the Carnahan's lawn mower.
One of the places I was never allowed to go was Grandpa's workshop. My brother and my (male) cousins were allowed. Most often I was left in the house, where I learned to play gin rummy with Grandma, and where I continued to develop my already over-active imagination. Looking back, I wonder if my being barred from the workshop somehow limited my ability to talk to my mother's father. I remember him being a silent man; but he was not always silent. He would tickle me and sing silly songs to me when I was very young. He once gave a very nice pork pie hat -- grey brushed felt with a leather band -- that had been his, I think.***
I love the smell of wood and tobacco. Both of these smells represent things that were forbidden to me when I was young and it was believed that the dusty ol' world might kill me.
More than that, though, I love the thought that I am learning, again, how to work with wood.
One of the projects Amanda and I are working on this year are covers for the raised gardens. We have 4 raised Amish-made cedar garden beds. Last year, we tried to plant a garden that was trounced by flying squirrels, a squatter possum, bluejays, crows, and cardinals. The solution this year: simple wood frame and chicken wire covers. The scope of the project is not grand. I'm not going to try and jump from this project to building a house. But it's start.
|Photo by A.Hay. The useful looking one is her Dad.|
But, in the parlance of our times: To hell with that bozo.
A New Poem
Winter makes me tire of myself.
Cold, dark February days instill in me
a desire to whittle away everything
that might signify I am alive.
Erase. Cut back. Wear a different hat.
Forgo certain enjoyable habits –
as I am and always have been
a creature of habit.
I was never so free
as when I lost my identification
to a pickpocket in a Minneapolis casino/
Bereft and released,
no longer obligated to my father’s name
I was only who others saw
or chose not to see.
There would have been no urgency at all
except that terrible itch in my foot and the anticipation
of touching your soft, warm skin
of looking into your bright eyes –
You, who know do not need to know my name
to know me
or to know my place in this world.
Now it is Spring
and the honeysuckle is blooming.
I find myself more inclined
to write myself back into lines
rather than obliterate all trace
and pray for the insight of others.
Your eyes, they shine on me
trace the lines that demarcate me,
the lines I have spent a cold season erasing.
Within the fresh lines,
your eyes fill me with ten thousand colors
of ten thousand forgotten nourishing suns
as the neighborhood roosters call out
demanding us all to rise.
*Sometimes I scribbled poems and silly stories. Sometimes I drew robots and then scribbled little poems and stories about them. Sometimes I daydreamed that I was a robot. Or that I was Superman. Or that I was a secret agent in enemy territory... that was a particularly favorite daydream during Ms. Melvin's 4th grade class when we studied multiplication tables.
** Not being able to breathe is an odd experience. I call it odd, rather than traumatic, because it happened often enough that it stopped being scary and became annoying. The only thing more annoying than not being able to breathe was everyone else's reactions to my not being able to breathe.
***I wasn't able to wear the hat very long. My head has always been unusually large.
^ Think of a wanna-be Mike Ditka. Same ego, same attitude, sans the coaching skill.